My workbook, Our Stories in Other Voices is a series of reflective writing prompts which encourage the writer to have an open dialogue with themselves. Though this workbook was developed for the purpose of a workshop, most users will be completing this project at home. For that reason, I want to go over the questions and discuss why I've put them in the book and how I relate to them. As not to overwhelm you, I'll go over the questions two at a time over the course of a week or so.
How did you feel about yourself this morning? What did you project into your day?
I think lots of us internet age people have developed some severely terrible morning habits. If your alarm clock is your cellphone, it's most likely the first thing you look at in the morning. Just Like That, you haven't even said good morning to yourself or your partner before you're on social media scrolling off into the ether.
If you're stumped on this question, there's a chance you didn't take a moment to think of yourself this morning. Buy a cheap normal alarm clock. Take a moment to think about the day you WANT to have. Take ten minutes to think about yourself, really. If you are having negative thoughts in the morning, consider why. Are you thinking about last night? Or projecting yourself into the future? Remember you're not in either of those places.
I found that I was having awful mornings for a long time: I always woke feeling really really ugly and soon after slightly sick. Two things were happening: I wasn't washing my face before bed and I was having coffee too soon. These two basic problems were destroying my days. And that's how I started washing my face & quit morning coffee.
What was the last thing you did before bed?
Again with the phone business. Put that thing down. Nothing is happening in there that's going to give you pleasant dreams, or make you feel relaxed the way a few deep breaths will. Consider those last few moments before you drifted off... What were you thinking of? What were you thankful for? If you suffer from anxiety (like me!) limit how many thoughts of tomorrow you allow yourself to have.
Developing the habit of coming home and washing my face immediately, affected the beginning of the upcoming day. I figured out a very simple way to stop letting today bleed into tomorrow. Those first moments in the mirror in the morning are a result of the last moments in the mirror before bed. Having an evening ritual has become very beneficial for me, maybe you could use one too! Wash your face. Get a glass of water. Say goodnight to yourself. Look at the moon. Think about the cells of your body replenishing themselves because that's what's happening and it's cool AF.
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